Confidence in critical situations
Confidence plays such an important role in all
that we do and think.
Whether you doubt your abilities at times or
whether you clam up instead of speaking up,
you need to have confidence in order to be an
inspiring and motivational leader.
1. Think about someone who is confident and act,
talk and walk like him or her. Model their
mannerisms and behaviour. It works for them;
it will work for you.
2. Smile a lot more. That doesn’t mean putting
a silly grin on your face! But smile when you
walk down the street, when you meet people and
generally be happier even if you’re not feeling
that way.
3. Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up
about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back.
Instead learn from it for next time.
4. Buy yourself some new clothes, get your hair
done, treat yourself to something new. It will make
you feel better and will give your ego a boost.
5. Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared
enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are
you prepared for that meeting, that presentation,
that job interview, when you meet someone for the
first time? If not, get to it.
6. Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at
and expose yourself to these opportunities at every
opportunity – because you’re good at it, you’ll
enjoy it and have more confidence.
7. Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate
what these are and put a plan in place to improve
them over time.
8. Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid,
you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Just watch
the reaction on their face after you’ve said it
the first time and there will be no going back.
9. Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things
rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished
lots in your life and you will accomplish lots
more in the future.
10. Be in charge of your thoughts at all times.
What is a thought? It’s just a question that
you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re
answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts,
you’re probably asking a negative question.
Change the questions to be more positive.
11. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming,
STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in
the grand scheme of things. A lot of the time it
isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!
12. Do you let the words of others affect you?
Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that
no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem
it’s what you say to yourself after they have
stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the
way you think.
13. List the words that you use on a consistent
basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People
use different words to mean the same thing and
depending upon the intensity of the word – this
will have an effect on your confidence. Instead
of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a
little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the
words that you use. Make sure they are lower in
intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised
with the results.
14. At the end of each day list your achievements
and successes throughout that day.
15. Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful
for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves
you? Who do you help out?
16. Every morning when you’re in the shower, play
over in your head the events in the day as though
they have already happened and they were a success.
Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the
people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualize
success and confidence and it will be so.
17. Improve your body language. The way that you move
your body has a massive impact on your confidence
levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your
head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got
somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in
confidence? Change you body language
18. Emotion is created by motion. As in 17, make
sure you move around consistently. This creates
energy and gets the blood pumping around you body -
it makes you feel better and more confident.
19. Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me!
Talk about your achievements and successes more than
you currently are.
20. And finally – You only live once, so any time that
you are down just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years time -
will what I am worrying about really matter?
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